Excessive frustration leads to disengagement.
Without exercising the all-important watershed of self-responsibility, breaking the compulsive cycle that leads to addictive behavior is all but impossible. Systems like AA or the Minnesota Model, which allow the abdication of self-responsibility to The Program, The Meeting, The Sponsor and even God, are, from this perspective, clearly suspect and, as the numbers bear out, considerably -- and understatedly -- less than successful.
In this moment, the heads of 12 Step proponents are exploding, for I have blasphemed. One of the core elements that inform our humanity is free will.
When you were a child, the fastest way to get you to do something was to tell you not to do it, right? Has that really changed? Think about that for a moment.
The potential legal and financial consequences of that errant behavior are even more immediate than those of going on a run. So, what makes you think that the 12 Step template has any more influence in keeping you on the straight and narrow? Because what it comes down to is choice and choice is an interior process.
We cannot enter into any process of personal transformation without releasing our reliance on externals. Holding onto those externals enslaves us every bit as much as our addictions, our assumptions, our expectations, our model of the world and even our own self-perception might enslave us.
As soon as we say, "I am powerless. Choice, free will, the ability to script our own destiny, this is where the power - our power and the power to reclaim ourselves from our consumptive compulsions -- lies.
The choice "not to be that person any more" is at the core of self-responsibility. It is the quantum moment when a person re-defines themselves on their own terms and does so by taking hold of both their life and their personal experience of the world. From this viewpoint, the 12 Step model does not afford the necessary venue for the reclamation of self and personal power because it forces us into an unrelenting system of external compliance that is anathema to the very free will that defines us.Choice in what teachers can learn about and choice in how to learn it.
It is, after all, professional development, and as such, we need to be professional about it. It is, after all, professional development, and as such, we need to be professional about it. Choice in Recovery is an organization that unites the many pathways to recovery in order to educate professionals in the field, and the public, about the existing options; empowering people to CHOOSE the recovery pathway that works for them.
How important is choice? For white, middle-class Americans, choice is a central part of life, research suggests.
That viewpoint can obscure the factors affecting decisions made by people from other backgrounds, including some New Orleanians’ “choice” to ignore evacuation orders. THE IMPORTANCE OF GOOD THINKING. The Process of Life Starts in Your Head How Good Is Your Thinking? However, the more the mind is absent from the choice making process, the more likely you are to follow some urge and make a choice without acknowledging its impact on your life.
“Because I want to” is never sufficient . But he’s wrong – abortion is the choice. Rape was the violence. Having another choice removed would be the further violence, and that’s what Koster and his “rape guy” friends support. But but but, someone argues.
But what? Either freedom is important to you, or it isn’t. Without exercising the all-important watershed of self-responsibility, breaking the compulsive cycle that leads to addictive behavior is all but impossible.